A few people have written about this subject, so I think it’s time for me to put in my two penny’s worth. How can you make sure you love your wedding photos and always look good? Hire the right photographer, right? Partly. Your photographer clearly has to know what they are doing, but they are taking pictures of you and what you are doing, so you have to play your part. Here is what I have learned over the years…
Clients often mention to me worries about having their photos taken, ‘I don’t want to look fat.’ ‘Look at my crow’s feet.’ ‘My face is all crinkled’… You get the picture. I know it can be hard to look at pictures of yourself and enjoy them for what they are – moments captured that tell a story. Your story. Your amazing and gorgeous wedding day story. But it’s so important that you do, otherwise you are cutting yourself off from the joy of your wedding photography. It can seem like a mountain to climb, but you really can do it, I promise you.
I like to tell an honest story with my images. I like to tell a happy, emotional, fun, romantic and honest story. This means that there will be images of you when you aren’t posing for the camera, but being yourself. The key to loving these images, is being happy with who you are to begin with. The fact that it’s your wedding day always helps. I always tell my clients, when they inevitably say how nervous they are about being photographed for hours on end (don’t worry, I’m not such a fan of it myself…) that it’s much easier on your wedding day. You’re wearing amazing clothes; you’ve spent more time than ever getting ready and perfecting your ‘look’; you are so unbelievably happy; you are surrounded by family and friends, you may have had a little champagne to calm the nerves. All of these factors help you look radiant and joyful and I can definitely capture that. But I also want to catch the imperfect shots that keep you ‘real’ and show your humanity. A funny face pulled, a tear shed, head thrown back and laughing like a drain, drinking champagne and singing your heart out on the dance floor. These images put all the personality and fun into your day. What would you have without them? Not much that’s real, that’s for sure. My job as a wedding photographer is to reflect your day back to you as it happened, with all of the fun, joy, laughter and imperfections as they happen. To show you as your best but real selves. And, in my experience, that means 2 things for you-
1. To look your best, you have to be open to the amazing day in front of you and enjoy it. Eat it up and let it become part of you. Live it and breathe it. Getting married really is one of the happiest things you can do.
2. To love your photos, you first have to love yourself (or at least be happy with yourself). Don’t worry about what you might perceive as a few physical imperfections. I can assure you that nobody cares. They are looking at the story of the whole picture. They are remembering that moment when everyone was so happy. They care that you are happy and marrying the person you love and having the most wonderful day, beyond anything you imagined was possible. This is what you need to focus on (no pun intended… ok, maybe a little bit).
If you can do those things, then without a doubt, you will love your pictures. (Well, you should also hire an amazing photographer. firstname.lastname@example.org for enquiries ;)) Good luck!
Jude Middleton captures weddings with beautiful, relaxed and natural photography. Drop me a line on email@example.com. I’d love to hear from you.